What To Do When
You Hit The Wall
Having just finished going through the publishing phase of my new book, The Tibetan Wisdom Code, and now entering into the marketing phase, I feel overwhelmed. Many writers write, and leave the marketing to someone else. I do not have that luxury at this point in time.
Of course, it is not 'just' the marketing, but a whole host of other business as well as personal projects on my plate. It seems I have 'hit the wall' as some athletes phrase it, and have to step back and view where I am emotionally. As a Peace Minister and Coach, I guide others to move beyond perceived limitations. While I intellectually feel no limitations, there seems to be human limits as to what a person in a body can do in any 24 hour period.
I am sure that most, if not all of the people reading this have 'hit the wall'. We humans seem to always have 'too much to do' and not enough time to do it. Let's look at that closer. What does 'too much to do' really mean? For most of us, it is a perception that, somehow, we have piled more 'jobs' on our 'to do' list than we can manage.
Well why did we do that? Also, if we put all of that on our list what is stopping us from completing those jobs? Do you ever stop to ask yourself questions like these, or do you just continue your activity without thinking? When you begin to take control over your life, instead of letting life take control of you, a change will occur.
But this is only one facet of your life that might cause you to 'hit the wall'; there are many. So do you look deeply into each one as I suggested above for your 'do list'? Or is it more reasonable to explore a way to either avoid hitting the wall altogether, and even if you do, to find a way to recover quickly and easily?
You could do all of the above over time, but in the short term, recovery from hitting the wall would be my first choice. When you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, stressed to max, your first step is to relax. Two exercises I call short term stress relievers I use in my eBook, Inner Peace Revealed, follow.
One method to deal with stressful moments is to use the Frontal-Occipital Hold technique (F.O. HOLD). Simply place the palm of one hand on yourforehead, where the frontal lobe of the brain is located, and the other palm on the back of your head (the occipital part of the brain) opposite the first hand. This causes the energy to flow from the back, your past, to the front, your present, and dissipates the ‘negative’ energy. Hold it as long as necessary.
Another quick method described in John Harricharan’s book The PowerPause1 is to stop focusing on the stressful energy you are experiencing in the moment, by shifting your thoughts to something that is positive (refocus). Spend a few seconds, or a minute or two, focusing on whatever thoughts you shifted to, perhaps sitting on the beach watching seagulls, and then give thanks for this new thought. If you are in conversation or at a meeting, you may have to come back (in thought) to where you were when the ‘trigger’ occurred, but now the ‘negative’ thought-pattern will have been defused.
Backing up to 'I have not hit the wall yet' stage, we can also do the above, or just get away from what you doing; relax and take a few deep breaths by breathing while mentally counting to 5, hold for a count of 5, let your breath out for a count of 5, and repeat the sequence 4 more times. You could also sit and meditate for five minutes or longer.
Backing up one more time, you are either beginning, or into the task blasting your way through it. If so, STOP. That's right, just stop what you are doing. Go back to the questions I mentioned at the beginning. Why am I doing this? Is there something more beneficial that I could be doing?
Last, we could start at the beginning by asking the original questions about why you even made the list; are all of the tasks really important? If there are some that are important, than why aren't I doing them? I know we backed up from 'stressed out' to 'not yet started', but you need a stepping off point at each stage. This gives you an idea where to start no matter what stage you are in.
I will go back to the basis of what I mentioned at the beginning, and that is the most important question you can ask yourself about anything you do or are planning to do. Is this important, or does this matter? Now I know all of us have activities in our lives we think matters, such as paying the rent/mortgage, buying groceries, working at our jobs or business, and so on.
Of course, these events matter to each of us as we live our human lives. But, and this is important, does it really matter to us as Spiritual Beings? Since we are now emerging from our human reality into a new, yet undefined, Reality that leans more on our Spiritual selves than our human selves.
Consider seriously, what I have suggested above. Neale Donald Walsh said on an interview recently that it is estimated people spend 98% of their time living their human earthly lives, while only 2% on what really matters – self discovery; seeking to Be who we really are. He said that if we but seek to double where we are regarding that percentage, say 4%, it what move the whole world forward. Think about it.
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